A short excerpt: I look around at young people these days, and I honestly fear for the future of my country. People are becoming less and less resilient and more and more clueless on how to survive in the real world. We live in a society of namby pamby men and women who whine when they don’t get what they want and think they are entitled to all the comforts the world has to offer. What do I blame it on? Bad parenting.
Baby Boomer parents developed a parenting philosophy that was soft on discipline and heavy on spoiling their children. Because many Boomer couples were both working, they wanted to make sure their children liked them to make up for the lack of time they were spending with their children. Generation X parents are even worse about coddling their kids. To many many Gen X parents, children are just an accessory you get to dress up with ironic t-shirts and fauxhawks.
Then he went on to name and explained six ways parents can do to raise "strong, resilient and independent children."
1. Give them some independence
2. Let them do unsafe things
3. Don't be their best friend
4. Don’t automatically take their side
5. Make them work for what they get
6. Don’t praise them indiscriminately
A New Publication from the Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University
SUMMARY OF ESSENTIAL FINDINGS
A Science-Based Framework for Early Childhood Policy
Using Evidence to Improve Outcomes in Learning, Behavior, and Health for Vulnerable Children
The path to our nation’s future prosperity and security begins with the well-being of all our children, yet state and federal policymakers often struggle with confusing information about which strategies can actually improve outcomes for children at risk for problems. As scientists, we believe that advances in neuroscience, molecular biology, genetics, and child development research, combined with four decades of rigorous program evaluation data, can now provide the common ground on which policymakers, business executives, civic leaders, and practitioners can design effective policies for children in the first five years of life. After vigorous debate among experts representing numerous fields, we present the following summary of what we know from credible, peer-reviewed research. ....Read more